How to ensure your peace of mind

You lose a valued friend a romantic partner walks out on you, you realize you were unintentionally rude to a colleague, Someone insulted you, you realize you don’t have someone to call during a crisis.
Any of these situations can stir up powerful negative feelings. When your social safety net is full of holes, it’s a challenge to maintain your peace of mind and this can cause you to give out negative energy even to people who mean well.
Be at peace with yourself!
You can’t just go about getting irritated and irritating people around you as well.
This morning, I had an encounter with a lady in a bus. A seat that was supposed to contain 3 normal people was being occupied by just two people. When I asked them to move in so I can have enough space to sit in without half my bum sticking out, the lady flipped. Out of respect for myself, I found another seat. I remember just sitting behind her, staring.. Hoping she wasn't comfortable in her seat even though she looked like she was sitting much more comfortably than the other seat occupants.
When she was about to get down from the bus , the driver didn’t realise she was standing close to the door so he drove on and she flipped.. She still talked even after he stopped for her..and when some other lady told her to just get down, she yelled at her.
My first thought to this was, "she sure is at war with herself"
Fellows… We need to work on ourselves OK? Do not let your demons control your life especially in public because it’d make you look bad even if you’re a good person.
These few tips can help ensure your peace of mind.
1. Set standards.
If certain friends or groups drain your energy or sap your self-esteem, move them toward the bottom of your priority list or stop seeing them at all. Beware of those who force you to give up too much of yourself as the price for a relationship! Choose to spend more time with people who have your interests at heart and can help you grow into the person you want to be. If you like the “you” that emerges with a particular person or group, that’s a good sign.
2. Observe character.
Those little inconsiderate things that your friend does? Notice them. Bring them up in conversation with them, voice out what you’d prefer instead. If their response is indifferent or worse, this friendship could be at a dead end. On the other hand, if your friend is appreciative and kind, notice that as a green light.
3. When your friends are happy, be happy for them. Be able to feel joy in the joy of another.
4. Apologize when you’ve been wrong or at least just stay quiet. Don't make it worse by yelling, claiming to be right or justifying yourself unnecessarily.
5. Be able to say NO when your friends’ requests interfere with your own values and goals. “Peace at any price” will not lead to peace of mind.
6. Use the negative feelings you notice about yourself such as resentment, sadness, and annoyance, as clues that you might need to change either yourself or a relationship or situation.